There’s something sacred about a new year. 2025 rolled in, and with it, I made a quiet, soul-deep commitment: I would press. Not just press on through life like we often say in passing—but truly press in. Press into His presence. Press into prayer. Press into purpose. And more recently? Press into the deep, deep waters of relational health.
Let me tell you—this journey is informing my intelligence in ways I’ve never known before. I mean that with every fiber of my being. I’ve been growing in ways I never imagined, and the beautiful part is… I don’t want it to stop. Ever. As long as I’m alive, I will stay on this journey—because there is joy in this journey, and it’s changing me.
So let’s talk relationships.
Recently, I learned something that completely shifted my lens: relationships can be grouped into three categories—General, Seasonal, and Covenant. Now, maybe you’ve always had an inkling, like I did, that not every relationship is the same. But to see it laid out like a framework? That was a game-changer.
Let me give you a real-life example.
There’s this friend I knew back in my teenage years—someone I even lived with for a time. We were close, laughed together, helped each other through some really defining seasons. And then… life happened. Time passed. No falling out, no drama, no hard feelings. Just a soft fade into the occasional “hi” on social media.
For a long time, I wondered, What happened? But now, I understand. She was a seasonal friend. That’s it. That’s all. And that’s okay.
When I realized this, a weight lifted. Because sometimes, we carry pain from relationships that didn’t “last,” when in truth, they were never meant to. They were for a season. And during that season? They served purpose. We built, we learned, we shared life—and that was beautiful.
Now I can honor the gift of what was, without grieving the fact that it’s no longer. I can smile and say, “Thank you for your season,” and let go with grace.
But here’s the wisdom: not only do we need to discern the category of a relationship, we need to treat it accordingly.
So many times, we get hurt because we treat a general connection like a covenant one. We pour out energy, time, emotion, expecting a return that will never come—because we’re investing on a level that the relationship was never meant to hold.
Here’s what I’m learning (and living):
Relationships are like gardens. If we want them to grow, we have to nurture them, weed out what doesn’t belong, and protect them from pests—literal and figurative.
And here’s a little extra truth nugget for the road:
Relationships are currency.
They will take you places money can’t. They will open doors, offer opportunities, speak your name in rooms you’ve never walked into yet. But only if we understand how to invest in them wisely.
So I invite you—during this season of pressing, during this Women’s History Month, and beyond—take a moment to assess your relationships.
✨ Categorize them: General. Seasonal. Covenant.
✨ Reflect: Have I been expecting covenant loyalty from a general acquaintance?
✨ Commit: Am I tending to the gardens that truly matter?
Wisdom calls. Let’s answer.
And if you want to go even deeper, I’d love to walk this road with you.
👉🏽 Click [here] to schedule your personalized, one-on-one consultation with one of Eve Speaks’ coaches. Let’s dive into deeper dimensions of relational health together.
I’m cheering you on. See you on the other side.
