Life has a way of surprising us with moments of profound reflection, often when we least expect it. Recently, I found myself in such a moment—a whirlwind of emotions that started as a simple morning of creativity but ended in an emotional breakthrough I never saw coming.
I was practicing new makeup techniques inspired by TikTok influencers, feeling confident and ready to batch some videos for the upcoming year. But amidst the bronzer, blush, and buzzing creativity, an unexpected flood of tears stopped me in my tracks. It was as if my soul tapped me on the shoulder, insisting I pay attention to something buried deep within.
What surfaced was a memory—a vivid recollection of my younger sister’s pain during our childhood in Jamaica. Our parents had left us in the care of family members while they sought better opportunities. The separation was challenging for both of us, but my sister endured things that, as a child, I could neither fully grasp nor change. The memory of her struggles, her pain, and my helplessness overwhelmed me.
For the first time, I felt the weight of her suffering as if it were my own. I cried not just for what she went through but for the scars it left on both of us. It was a startling realization: witnessing someone else’s pain can leave deep imprints on our own souls—marks we may not even recognize until years later.
In that moment, I felt an urgent need to reach out. I called my mom and, through a serendipitous twist, learned my sister was with her. I asked my mom to hug her, but she insisted I speak directly. Through tears, I apologized to my sister—not for something I did, but for not acknowledging her pain sooner, for not having the words or awareness back then to tell her how deeply sorry I was. That conversation was healing for both of us.
This experience reminded me of the story of Jesus and Lazarus in the Bible. Jesus, knowing He could raise Lazarus from the dead, still wept when He saw Mary and Martha’s grief. He showed up not just as a Savior but as someone who shared in their pain, offering emotional and spiritual healing alongside the miracle.
Reflecting on this, I wonder how many of us carry hidden wounds—not from our own suffering but from witnessing the struggles of those we love. Have we taken the time to process these emotions, to grieve for what others have endured, and to acknowledge how their pain has shaped us?
If this resonates with you, I invite you to take a moment. Reflect on whether there’s someone in your life whose pain has lingered in your heart. Reach out, even if it’s years later, and offer words of love, understanding, or an apology if needed. You might be surprised by how healing it can be—for both of you.
And if you’re unsure where to start or feel overwhelmed by emotions you can’t fully articulate, you don’t have to navigate this alone. Sometimes, a compassionate guide can help untangle the threads of your heart and mind, leading you to greater clarity and healing.
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